We’ve all gotten comments and opinions we never asked for or invited. Things like:
“Oh, you started working again? I guess your husband’s income isn’t cutting it.”
“Your body may not be ideal but at least you’ve got a beautiful face.”
“It must be exhausting having a downs child.”
“You’re so skinny. I wish I could eat anything and not gain weight.”
“I can’t believe you still use the microwave. It causes cancer.”
Think of these messages of ignorance and stupidity as flagged messages in your inbox and send them to the spam folder.
Do we open messages in our spam folder? No, because based on the subject line, we know the content may be harmful or that the message is meaningless to us.
In that same line of thinking, I’ve been relating it to the unsolicited comments I’ve received in real life. It sucks that sometimes these comments are said by people close to us, but the fact is their comment doesn’t do any good. Before letting a hurtful comment fester – giving time to internalize their words, and opening myself up to their message, I simply sort it to spam. The real life version of “unsubscribe” is to respectfully tell them that topic is off limits, what they said was rude, or brush it off by changing the subject.
Don’t open their loaded email. Don’t let their words ruin your day or get you down. Treat spam as spam: delete. Keep your inbox for what makes you feel good and builds you as a person. Don’t let messages that don’t fit that filter ruin the good stuff.
As a rule of thumb, I also sort gossip to junk mail. Bye bye, BS.